I spend a lot of time in workshops and during coaching sessions, talking about the behaviour of team members and strategies that managers could use to manage those behaviours.

But increasingly, I am asking managers to start to think about their own behaviours.

Business people shaking hands, finishing up a meeting

Your behaviour is always having an impact and, often, some of the challenges you have with team members are because of the way you behaved in the first place.  This is a difficult thing to both admit and recognise.

I am currently reading The Little Book of Emotional Intelligence by Andy Cope (I love his books and, no, he hasn’t paid me to say this!).  It is full of brilliant anecdotes, ideas and thought-provoking comments to make you look at yourself and try to “be your best self”.

In other words, to have more emotional awareness.

This is particularly important as a manager, when you are a role model to those around you.  In a recent workshop, I challenged a group of managers to think about the impact their behaviour was having on the team, and whether it was enhancing the team’s performance or restricting it.  A difficult question to answer, but the feedback from the delegates was that it made them re-assess their management techniques.

So, stop and think about how you are behaving and the impact it has on your team.  And focus on “being your best self”!